This week’s chapter on the social and cognitive development of
adolescents should be renamed, “The A-Z bible of understanding Teens.” As a parent, I often marvel at the
behavior of my children. They are wonderful young men, eighty-nine percent of
the time. The other eleven percent
is riddled with arguing over who will eat the last doughnut in the box, take
control of the remote, or who is staring at whom while we’re eating dinner. Chapter eight tells us that adolescence
marks a transition into a time where children are beginning to improve upon
executive functioning and learning how to critically think. Reinforcing that this is a time for
growth and learning in children gives me a renewed patience for some of those
nagging behaviors that drive me insane.
Executive functions are the self-regulating skills that we use everyday
to accomplish almost everything.
These functions help us make decisions, plan and organize, control our
emotions, and shift between situations.
So when I’m wondering why my son is wearing the same pair of pants three
times a week, or how he can function in such a messy room, I think that it is
important to recognize that I should be supporting the development of his
executive processing skills. My
first instinct is always to correct his mistakes, but this week’s chapter made
me wonder how I could support him in making his own decisions. I think that it
would be more beneficial to my son for me to ask questions that help guide his
own thinking, and provide information on why things are acceptable or
unacceptable. If I want to raise a
child with the ability to critically think, to use convergent and divergent
thinking, then I need to be able to support that growth.
I think that another important factor in supporting the cognitive growth
of teenagers is encouraging the development of their own identities. Erik Erikson says that adolescence is
the fifth stage in his psychosocial theory of development, that of identity
versus identity confusion. Erikson
sees adolescence as a time of intensive exploration and analysis of
oneself. Adolescents battle with a
newfound concern with how they appear to others. When the adolescent is at odds with what they do well, for
example being an exemplar student, but not being considered a ‘popular’ kid in
school they can experience some identity confusion. It is essential to help
children develop confidence, set personal goals, and not define their success
in life by the success or standards of others.